HeartByte on November 3, 2020:

Namaste! “the divine in me respectfully recognizes the divine in you”.

These notes are for those of you who feel despair due to some current happenings or due to some past events. It’s to connect with you and share the common bond, and to walk a mile in your shoes. There’s no intention of judgment, the sole purpose is to make you feel respected, acknowledged, and to make you know that you are not alone.

The past few days have been bearing on me. My former business partner committed suicide recently. I came to know about this after this untimely event happened. It got revealed to me that lately he was overwhelmed with the pressures and the sorrows at work and in his personal life. These factors coupled with the pandemic made him feel secluded from his social network. It made him feel depressed and eventually led him to cause his own death.

This incident made me travel down memory lane to the early 90s when we were together in a computer systems integration business. Even though we quickly grew the business many folds, I was not in ideological alignment with my partners. So, I exited out of this business partnership. Just a few months later I started feeling the gap and missed my business partners! My lingering thoughts of the feeling of disconnection ultimately led me to feel guilty about leaving my friends and business partners. 

Luckily, with the support of my wife, mom, and nanny I shrugged off this state of despair. I resolved to let go, start over, and reaffirmed to improve my personal well-being. I started doing yoga exercises for physical strength, pranayama breathing for energy gain, and meditation for emotional wellness and mental acuity. I used positive affirmations, moments of deep reflection, and reading to uplift my spirit and reprogram my inner script. Thus, I started my journey towards a deeper meaning in life and on to more lessons in ‘human engineering’. 

The feeling of dejection, hopelessness, despair, let-down by others, self-guilt, remorse – they all are natural feelings and thoughts. If you’ve stayed there for too long, it’s time to let-go, self-forgive, and stop blaming yourself for the mis-take. Make a firm resolve to take one small step forward in the positive direction towards your ‘true north’.

Just know that between the digital 0 and digital 1 there are many analog states AND between black or white, there are multiple shades of grey!

“When things turn from bad to worse, make a supreme act of faith, and know that it will not fail you.”

What has happened is done, it can’t be undone. You know that you can’t change your past, so make a new beginning to change your end. Today choose to take a chance to initiate an inner change! Know that the universe is on your side, and that nature is not judgmental about your shortcomings and mistakes.

Self-forgiveness:

Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and accepting what has happened because it will not change.

Forgiveness is dismissing the blame. Choices were made that caused the hurt; we each could have chosen differently, but we didn't.

Forgiveness is looking at the pain, learning the lessons it has produced, and understanding what we have learned.

Forgiveness allows us to move on towards a better understanding of universal love and our true purpose.

Forgiveness is knowing that love is the answer to all questions and that we all are in some way connected.

Forgiveness is starting over with the knowledge that we have gained. I forgive you, and I forgive myself. I hope you can do the same.

- Judith Mammay

Be Well, Make it a great day, Life is Good!